Sale is final!

The house out in Cochrane is mine, well in 2 months LOL. The conditions were met this morning, so now all I have to do is wait. I'm not doing much tonight, just very, very tired. I've had a few late nights lately, which have finally caught up with me. I will be finding my own bed fairly soon tonight.

I was back in the house on Wednesday for the inspection, which I was very nervous about. I essentially bought that house with only ever being inside the one time back in early June, and even though I remember thinking it was a good house for me and the boys, I was worried my memory may have been flawed. Well, it wasn't.

The house is actually bigger than I remembered, and the kitchen much nicer too. The kitchen I have now is nice, but the new one is much better laid out cupboard wise. I will truly enjoy being in that kitchen. The bedrooms were all pretty much how I remembered as well, all good sizes, with plenty of room for the 4 of us. The yard though was much bigger than I remembered. The boys will love having that yard to play in, especially with the park right outside the back gate. The only true drawback to a yard that size is maintenance. I may just have to consider hiring someone to mow that lawn, or figure out a schedule with my parents to allow me the time to get it done.

I also went and purchased a new bed after the house inspection. I am very much looking forward to sleeping in a new bed, one that does not have memories of him associated with it. He can have the 3 beds in this house, I really and truly do not want to see them after I leave here in 3 weeks. I have already picked out the bedding I would like, unless of course I come across something I like better before I move in. I want the bedding picked before I take possession so that I can figure out what colour to paint my new bedroom.

All in all, I am very pleased with the purchase I have made. It is going to be a wonderful home for me and my boys, a place to make new, wonderful, happy memories. Here are some of the pics I took yesterday. The one with an arrow pointing to a garage is showing where my parents are in relation to my front lawn.

Contemplating

So, I am coming down from the highs of the last week. The monster house is sold, and I have secured the purchase of my new house, and now I need to pack. Not really something I want to do, but it needs to be done. I have just over 3 weeks, more than enough time... I already have 4 boxes of books done.

I got my hair cut and dyed yesterday, it was supposed to be done the day after He told me he was leaving me. It's taken me this long to want to get it done again, and it felt great! My stylist made some interesting comments as well. She says that I am glowing more, look happier, and just seem more outgoing. She also said that it sounds like there was some mental abuse going on, whether it was noticeable or not. It makes me wonder....

When looking back, I have noticed that I fit myself to work into his life, but I can't see anywhere that he tried to fit into mine. It was all about him, and I followed along. The thing was, I didn't see it, or maybe I just didn't want to notice. I'm not sure why I let myself be put on the back burner like that, it's not who I really am, or who I want to be. I matter, I count. I don't think he wanted someone who could handle things on her own, could still function by herself. I think it made his insecurities even worse. Problem is, I can handle anything that life throws my way. Especially now that I have woken up, and taken control of my life again.

It's amazing what I have already done since this all happened. I have lost 33lbs, taken my boys camping, hikes, sold a house, bought a new one. In 3 weeks I will be taking them out in a tent trailer for 2 weeks. I'm not sure I would have had the courage to do this before, but I certainly have it now. I put my life (and the boys) on hold when he was away, I'm not sure why I did that. I will not put my life on hold for anyone again.

A sneak peak...

Here's a sneak peak at my new house. I will have more pics/video next week, but wanted to get a few up now. I'm already dreaming about how to decorate it, colours, and furniture placement.

My New House

I just signed the papers for the sale of my new house!!!! I have till the 31st to have the conditions lifted, but I am not even remotely worried about that. The inspection will be either Tuesday or Wednesday, I can't wait to get in to the house again. I will walk the boys over to the park today, and show them the yard. I am truly looking forward to seeing what they think.

This is such a big step for me. I have never made such a large purchase on my own before, and it was a little scary... but, it is just another accomplishment for me. This will be my house, he has had nothing to do with the purchase, or even choosing. I have never looked forward to a place this much before. Just a little over two months and I will be in.

I also realized yesterday, that in just 3 years, all 3 boys will be walking down the street to school!!!!

So Close!

I will be going through with the purchase of the house that I have been dreaming about for over a month tomorrow! I am so excited, can barely stop looking at the photo's of the house, and figuring out what I am going to do with the rooms LOL. Only slight down side is that I won't get in till Sept 30th, so that means I will be staying with my parents for a month. It will be interesting staying there again, but at least this time I know when I will be out, which makes the world of difference. And I'm sure having scheduled counseling sessions will also help me big time, a place to sort through things that will crop up.

Have I said how Excited I am yet LOL. I will soon have my own place, a place without his influence at all, a place just for me... and the boys of course ;). Even though he is gone, I can still feel his presence here, which is good and bad... just depends on what things I remember. When I remember how well he treated me, loved me, cared for me, it's good. Anything from this year, well, not so good. It will be good to make this last break.

Waiting, waiting.

If you haven't noticed already, I don't really have a lot of patience... especially when it comes to moving on with my life. I put an offer in to the house I first fell in love with a month ago, yesterday afternoon. Because the owner was out of town, we gave her till 9pm tonight to get back to us. An hour ago I got a text from my realtor saying that they got hold of her, and she would have her response in 2-3 hours.

The one thing I am holding onto is, she did not just reject the offer, and will be responding! I am willing to move on the money side of things a fair bit, but the possession by only a few weeks. My parents (especially my Dad) have said we are welcome in their house for as long as needed, but I would truly like to keep our time there to a minimum. As I'm sure you all understand, I love them, but don't really want to live with them anymore.

Other than that, things are moving along with the sale here. The inspection was this morning, and since the buyer was not present, he didn't get the report right away. So again, I am waiting to hear how it went. They only have till Monday to have all conditions removed, and I put to have my conditions on the offer cleared for Tuesday. So, if all goes well, Tuesday I will hopefully be celebrating!!!

Decisions, decisions!

It's decision time, which house to offer for, and for how much! I'm still pretty sure I want the one I saw a month ago, although there is a close contender. The only real snag is what kind of possession the owner will take. I understand she has some medical/health issues, and wants a long possession... but what does long mean to her! She has been out of town, and won't be back till tomorrow... so I am going to be flying a little blind here.

If I cannot get that house by the end of September (a little over a month with my parents is a little too much), then I will move on to option #2. This house is a little bigger, with more rooms, and is also set up nicely. The big draw backs are that it does not have a garage (although there is space out front to put a double in), and the yard is smaller and needs work. The first choice has a very nice landscaped large yard, with a single car garage.

I will sleep on it tonight, and see how I feel in the morning. Hopefully a good sleep will give me the clarity I need for this.